What is Psychodynamic Counselling?
If you’ve ever looked into starting therapy and felt confused about all the different approaches, you’re not alone. One question I often hear is from new clients is: What exactly is psychodynamic counselling? And more importantly: What will it actually be like for me, in the room?
In this blog, I’ll explain a little about the theory behind psychodynamic counselling, and what you can expect if you decide to give it a go.
Looking Beneath the Surface
Psychodynamic counselling is very much based on the idea that what we experience in the present is often shaped by what’s happened in our past, with early relationships being a significant part of that. Sometimes patterns or our ways of coping that once helped us survive can continue into adulthood, even when they’re no longer helpful.
You might find yourself asking:
Why do I always doubt myself, no matter what I achieve?
Why do I react so strongly to certain situations?
Why do my relationships often feel stuck, strained, or overwhelming?
Rather than just focusing solely on the symptoms - like anxiety or low mood - psychodynamic therapy gently explores the roots of these feelings. It’s not about analysing you or telling you what’s wrong. It’s about creating a safe, consistent space where you can begin to understand yourself more deeply. I always like to tell my clients that I am very much a guide or facilitator who is there to help you find your own solutions- after all you are the expert of you!
What Happens in the Therapy Room?
All sessions are client led and you are invited to speak about whatever feels important to you, whether that’s thoughts, feelings, memories, dreams, or even the sense that you don’t know where to begin. That’s completely okay. It is often the case that once you start to talk, the conversation will end up where it needs to be quite naturally.
Together, we might:
Explore how past experiences are shaping how you see yourself today
Notice patterns in your relationships or behaviour
Make space for feelings you may have had to push down or hide
Use metaphor, imagery, or reflection to connect with your inner world
Talk about how you're feeling within the room — which can help us understand how you relate to others outside it
It’s a collaborative process. There’s no pressure to “perform” or be a certain way. I’ll meet you where you are, and we’ll take it at a pace that feels right for you.
Why Choose Psychodynamic Counselling?
Many people come to therapy wanting relief from painful feelings or difficult situations - and psychodynamic therapy can absolutely help with that. But beyond symptom relief, it also offers the opportunity for deeper, longer-lasting change.
By understanding the “why” behind your struggles, it becomes possible to make more conscious choices, feel more in control of your life, and develop a kinder, more compassionate relationship with yourself.
Psychodynamic therapy can be especially helpful if:
You’re struggling with anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem
You feel stuck in patterns you can’t quite understand
You’ve experienced loss, trauma, or difficult relationships
You want to know yourself more deeply and feel more connected to your sense of self
Therapy isn’t always easy — but it can be incredibly rewarding. Psychodynamic counselling gives you the chance to slow down, reflect, and make sense of things in a way that’s often hard to do alone. It’s a space where healing and growth can happen side by side.
If you’re curious or wondering whether it might be the right fit for you, you’re always welcome to reach out.